Sometimes you have to go backwards in order to move ahead

It seems that we all go through times when we feel stuck, many times we feel that way because we are stuck!  The new job hasn't shown up, your relationship is stagnant, your house is too small or needs soooo much work it's overwhelming.

Those are the times when it's easy to lose patience and faith too, for that matter. It's frustrating to have done all the work, put in the effort and still the situation just stays the same. I've struggled with this myself and I know how easy it is to feel lost or just want to give up.

During this frustrating time, I wasn't sure what to do or which direction to turn. I knew I had to do something different so I could see different results since all of my hard work was getting me nowhere. After wrestling with this issue for what felt like a really, really long time I still had no answers. So I decided to go backward.

Now I do believe as a general rule that you can't really go back - it just doesn't work. That was then and this is now. People change, places change and grow, hopefully, you change and grow so the old form or location just doesn't fit anymore. Keeping this in mind, I decided to give it a try anyways to see what would happen. This was not a huge risk I was taking, just having a look back, a visit to try it on for size. The worst thing that could happen is that it would be disappointing, not a big deal.  

Part of the problem with the past is that that's what it is, the past, and that is exactly where it belongs, behind you. I am reminded by my Spirit Guides to remain in the present moment. The past is gone, the future has not happened yet and all we have is the now. This seems like an easy mindset to practice and it is depending on the day!  But it's a good one and worth working on. Like anything else, it does get easier with time.

So I had a look back after many years of living a very different kind of life. My visit was a lot of things. It was weird, not as great as I remembered, sort of disappointing, a bit sad and it was no longer a good fit for me. Happily, it was also wonderful, great fun and a memorable adventure.

After giving this some thought, I have come to the conclusion that I had to get this trek into my past out of the way, in order to fully move into the present, no matter what that may look like. I no longer have that nagging 'what if ' feeling and I have to tell you it feels wonderful and very freeing. It feels like I just made room in my brain, my heart, and my life for something new and exciting. I've wiped the slate clean. So come on new stuff, I am now ready:)  

No answers? No problem

Once in a while, our dogs will wake me up in the middle of the night wanting to go outside, which they did last night around 4 am. As I let them out I heard a chorus of barking, on top of their barking. I went outside to have a look and there were two huge Great Pyranease dogs! I've known one or two in the past and most are great big friendly dogs. Thank God these two were happy to see me since it was just them and myself out there in my night shirt wondering where in the world they came from.

Our male dog Hooper is the protector so he was chasing them around or trying to as they sort of looked at him with an expression that said, "what are you doing"?  These dogs weighed about 160 pounds each, at least.

Mike heard all the commotion and came out to find all of us going around in circles and these two huge dogs having a rather good time. We finally got our dogs in the house and put the visitors in our kennel. It was really cold last night but these dogs have really thick heavy coats, so we gave them water and went back to bed.

They did have collars and tags on so we called the owner and she came to pick them up later that morning. She told us where she lived and we figured the two dogs had traveled about 10 miles to our house!

The other really strange thing is, we can't figure out how they got into our yard area. We live on 5 acres and the area around the house is fully and heavily fenced, to keep our dogs in and others out. So how did two 300+ pound dogs get it?

About a month ago, I posted a story on Facebook about a chihuahua that had also wandered onto our property. Turned out he was really sick so we took him to the vet, he had no collar or ID. The vets tried to save the poor little guy but he was just too sick so we had to put him down after a week of meds and hope that he would make it. We're not sure where he came from either.

So what's the point? There are so many times in life and in my work as a psychic/medium that there are no answers and that is the way its supposed to be. My Spirit Guides remind me from time to time that those of us here on Earth have a very narrow view of life, the afterlife and the life lessons we come here to learn. We have a sort of tunnel vision during this life with no recall (most of the time) of our past lives or the karma we are working out.

Most of the time the Guides are more than happy to pass on as much information as they possibly can, through me, during a reading. That is their purpose, to help and assist you. But the exception does happen and sometimes it is simply not in our best interest to know' the why' about everything.

So, the next time your out at 4 am to star gaze or take your dogs out, keep an eye peeled. A 160 pound dog may be in your yard just to say hello, for some reason:)    

Leave your door open for blessings

In my work as a Psychic I get to meet so many wonderful, different types of people. My work is never boring. Over the years and after doing thousands of readings, I have come to recognize certain patterns that come up again and again in all people.  We humans can be an odd bunch, myself included. We seem to be prone to certain behaviors like resistance. My Spirit Guides always remind me that it is our own free will that governs each of our lives. We can actually do anything we like, there is nothing stopping us.

But what has been in the spotlight lately is resistance in general and how having or holding on to resistance can get in our way. As an example, I met with a woman a few weeks ago who like many people was resistant to a few of the predictions the Guides were telling her about. One of them was the possibility of meeting a man who would be a companion, friend and a romantic interest. Right away the energy of resistance came up. When I'm doing readings these feelings come to me in waves and in pictures. I actually feel what the person sitting with me is feeling.

I have no judgment about any one's feelings during a reading. Everyone has the right to feel however they feel, it's an individual experience. If anything, I can relate to these very human feelings and resistance is fear and who can't relate to that?

The point is, that many times if we insist on holding on to resistance we may be blocking something wonderful from coming into our lives. When I share a prediction of something great coming into someones life, my Guides always remind me to tell my clients that in order to 'see' this possible partner or great new job or whatever, when it appears, it is very helpful to drop resistance to it in the first place. Just remain open to something wonderful happening at just the right time.

This may seem like a very simple thing to do but sometimes a prediction of a new job or a new love can bring out fear, old hurt feelings or a case of the what ifs.  But if we hold on to our resistance or fear we run the chance of not 'seeing' that opportunity when it does walk into our life. If our hearts and minds are clouded with fear or resistance we may not even give it a chance.

Having hope and faith can be a difficult thing, we don't want to be let down - I understand. Just keep in mind though, that resistance can act as a wall, a giant boulder blocking something unbelievably, incredibly wonderful. Take a chance, what have you got to lose? You can always take your resistance back if you choose.

Life & Change - You're tougher than you may think

Change, so they say, is the only constant in life. It is true, but like many people, I still don't like it. At least not all of the time or all of the changes that come about all on their own. Change is a funny thing since I believe we are hard-wired to resist it to varying degrees.  I hear it all the time when doing readings. We human beings can be tough, resistant and stubborn and I think those are invaluable qualities to have if you're going to survive all the changes we encounter during our lives.

Now at the ripe old age of 56 I see changes in myself that I didn't' exactly plan for. Their not all bad, there is definitely a good side to maturity. I am better at surrendering to what is out of my control like people, places, and things. This concept is a work in progress. It's very weird to get to this age and begin to see people dying. People from TV, movies, and even newscasters I watched growing up in Los Angeles.

The odd part is that seeing others die, usually makes us think of our own death or our lives sort of winding down. I know that sounds a bit extreme, after all, it's not like I'm 80, but it does pop into my mind from time to time. Years ago a very good friend of mine who was in his early 60's told me all of his friends were dying off! He had been to more funerals than he cared to count in the previous year. I think life is sort of like that. Time does speed up as you age and if it actually doesn't, I can tell you the perception of it speeding up is very real.

You know how your grandfather could tell you about a time when he was nine years old but he can't remember what he had for dinner two nights ago? Yeah, that's what I'm talking about. Oh sure, go ahead and laugh it's okay. I know it's funny but it's also just weird. I wonder at what point did I begin to walk into another room in the house and totally forget what I was looking for? 

Life can be tricky....Here we are going along, living life and all of a sudden poof, we're called out of the game, just like that. But that is life on earth and somewhere along the line, I think we read and signed the contract before choosing to enter these physical bodies. Perhaps this is a reminder to enjoy it all, even the challenging times. Keep in mind that too will change for that is the one constant. 

I am happy to say that overall, life remains very sweet, very rich and ver satisfying. My wish for you is the same.
 

Attitude, Attitude, Gratitude:)

I was in the grocery store the other day and I heard the cashier ask the woman checking out in front of me, "How are you today?"   The woman responded with a big smile on her face, "I am blessed and highly favored by a loving God!" in a very chipper and upbeat voice. I'll be honest with you, my first thought was oh brother, how annoying!  I caught myself and thought, hmmmm what's with that attitude?

Here was a woman who was very open and vocal about her faith in God. She had absolutly no problem sharing this with the cashier. I gave it some thought and I guess what rubbed me the wrong way was the idea of her wearing God on her sleave. When it comes to religious beliefs or your own personal relationship with God, I think that is a rather private matter. And that goes for non-believers as well - to each his own.

Then I started to wonder if this women's obvious strong faith in what she thinks of as God, was a game changer. What if I had such an unwavering faith in what I call God? Would my life be different, would I have more peace, would I have more gratitude for the little things in life?

A good friend of mine was recently dealing with several difficult situations in her life. It was a time when nothing was going her way, it was a very challenging time. As we were talking I was reminded by my Spirit Guides that during those tough times it's helpful to write a gratitude list.

We've all had those difficult times when when our lives seem to be out of control. Perhaps we've put a great deal of time and effort into a job or relationship only to have it fall apart despite our efforts. The job that was going so well is coming to an end or just when you're getting ahead financially your hit with a large expense you didn't see coming.

All of us have been in those situations where life just happens and the only thing we can control is the way we react to those events - a very tall order in many instances. A gratitude list can help you regain perspective over a difficult situation knowing that yes, things can always be worse. All you have to do is look around and see how tough many people's lives are.

My list includes having a roof over my head and it's not cardboard. Being able to function physically, having the use of my arms, legs, my eye site. These are gifts that many people don't have. I am grateful to be able to go to the grocery store to buy food, live in a clean comfortable home, have a nice bed to sleep in....not to mention all the wonderful people in my life. I am also grateful for the opportunity to do the work I do, to be of service to help, to have a purpose.

So even though that women in the grocery store was a little bit over the top, I am grateful that I was in the right place at the right time to hear what she had to say and to be reminded that yes, I am blessed and so are you.    

Hard headed? Who me?!

One of the great things I have learned from my work as a Psychic/Afterlife Communicator, is the ability to laugh at myself. I believe some of that comes with age. I have been so fortunate to have spoken to thousands of people over the years and what a fantastic learning opportunity it has been and continues to be.  

There are certain patterns that show up from time to time, lessons to be learned by my clients and myself. Lately the theme has been (for lack of a better way to say it) is, "There are more ways than one to skin a cat". Or, if what you're doing is not working, try another way. It always amazes me how patient and kind the Divine creator is. I think sometimes he or she, must look down upon us and think wow - that one is really slow to learn. I am speaking of myself here and just how human we can be.

For quite a few months now I have been struggling with an issue and looking at if from various angles, trying this, trying that with no luck at all. I have given it everything I have, I have left no stone un-turned, I have researched it, I have worried about it, put money into it, prayed about it, on and on and on. So, at last - I have surrendered, I have turned it over, I waved the white flag.

What I let go of is the key here. I let go of having this situation happen the way I want it to. My goal is the same BUT I am now resigned to the fact that it will happen if it's meant to be and if it is for my highest good. Whew - That only took me a few years!

It's funny now, but not so much as I was insisting and working towards that goal I had in mind. We humans are an odd bunch. Sometimes we just have to get beat down before we get it or at least I do. Sometimes this lack of flexibility is disguised as hard work. There is nothing wrong with having a goal and working towards it. But if the goal continues to elude us again and again and again - we are forced to rethink our goal, our strategy or both. This is a blessing, sometimes in disguise and other times it is staring us in the face, waving it's arms, jumping up and down.

So, now I am free and I have freed up the situation to resolve itself. Huh, what a concept.    

 

All in a day's work

Sometimes I'm asked why I became a Psychic.....Why I chose this work. I don't know that I set out to do this work as a living or a full time profession - it just sort of happened. I have been communicating with my Spirit Guides since I was 14 and with those who've passed since I was 19. This fascination was not a secret to my family since I started with Automatic Writing, which is described as writing without conscious thought, while a teenager. When I began this process I would write down what my Guides were saying to me and then try my best to figure out what I had written. Spirit Guides speak very quickly and it was hard to keep up since my hand writing was so sloppy. So, I began to type what my Guides were saying and I still do the same today.

This 'Psychic' business was a surprise to many of my friends when I came out of the Psychic closet years ago and I've known quite a few of my them for 30+ years. Surprise!! The surprise was on me however, since not one person has ever said, "You do what???!!!" That part happily, was all in my head. It did take a leap of faith though to share this particular part of myself and an even bigger leap to go public.

If there is a downside to being a working and very public Psychic, it is the bad name Psychics have in general. You have your real Psychics and then you have your hacks. UGG, how does the public tell the difference?  There are a few very good & sensible ways in which to do this. But how do I not get grouped with the hacks? Well, that comes under the category of things I cannot control so I let it go and rely on my Spirit Guides to bring me those that I can help.

I believe that each of us are psychic, that we all have an internal guidance system telling us which way to go and what to do or not do. I also believe that all of us have a higher power watching out for us. I think each of us can look back at certain times in our lives and wonder how in the world we ever survived -  I know I can and I know it wasn't me!

So if you'd like to tune into your Spirit Guides, higher self or that quite inner voice, try to get quite. For some people, meditation works or listening to guided meditations or walking or yoga. Whatever works for you and helps you to quiet your mind will help you to get in touch with that inner voice. All of us are so busy with daily living that it can be difficult to tune it all out. Our internet was down for 2 days last week for some technical reason and I have to admit I liked it:) Ahhhh one less thing to do! It was like a mini vacation, maybe give it a try? 

Storeis and ramblings from a working Psychic-Medium

People ask me sometimes how long I've been able to hear Spirit Guides and those who have passed....A long time now that I'm in my 50's....But I also communicate with animals which is really interesting, not that everyone else isn't.

So I had a sad situation the other day with a dog who really wants her owner to 'get' that she will be leaving her dog body at some point and now would be a good time for her to grasp this since she is 14 years old. The dog is very funny, bold and insistent and has started to bark non-stop much to the displeasure of her mom and the man she is married to. The dog, Kelly is really angry at this point and that is what her barking sounds like - like she is ticked off - and she is.

So when I communicate with animals, they tend to speak much like Spirit Guides in that they communicate using pictures to describe situations or feelings. Kelly has been with her mom her entire life and it used to be just Kelly and her mom before she got married, which Kelly is not so happy about. It was a big change for Kelly and she has always taken her owners side and still barks at her mom's husband as if she doesn't know him - she does, of course, she just does not appreciate the intrusion. She liked it when it was her and her mom - period.

Kelly the dog told me a few things, that she is tired and most of all that she would like her mom to be OK that she will be leaving at some point. Kelly has begun slowly, her transition to the other side. She is not quite all there, sort of doggie dementia on a small scale. I mentioned this to her mom and she said yes, many times Kelly will stare off into space as if she is watching or listening to someone or something. This is the beginning of the transition. I know this not only because my Spirit Guides have explained the process, but I have had a few of my dogs do this over the years. It is in preparation for leaving their physical body.

Having had dogs for most of my adult life, I know, at least for me, there is nothing more difficult than having to make and carry out the decision to end your dog's life. I've had to make this decision way too many times. On the other hand, it's just part of the deal and the way I see it, it is my responsibility to make sure that my dog's do not suffer unnessesarily - period.

We can be rather selfish sometimes.....hanging on to our beloved pets who have become a big part of our everyday lives. They are our companions, our friends and someone we can pour out our feelings to when no one else will understand or know how to keep quiet about private things. I am grateful for my dogs and even as gut wrenching as it is to let them go at the end of their lives - I would not want to live without their constant love and devotion. They are each remarkable and unique.