Should I Power through it or just Let Go?

There are so many schools of thought for various challenges that come to greet us in our lives. Some times I think well, just do it, just go for it, just get it done. But then I wonder about the other voice that says everything happens for a reason and if you surrender and don’t add resistance to something….. to anything it will just fade away.

My Spirit Guides like to explain it this way: Life is like a game of tennis. One person hits the ball over the net and the other person then does the same. The tennis game is a metaphor for anything that is a struggle for you. Dealing with a rude in-law or family member, that person at work that is so annoying.

Do you engage and begin the game of tennis and answer or try to justify your side or stand up for yourself or do you simply take the high road and say no thank you to the drama? That is the question! Taking the high road and not engaging is not an easy thing to do. You say – Hey, they started it, not me!

So, back to tennis. If your partner in the game hits the ball back to you and you don’t send it back over the net, what happens to the ball? Well, as you know it will hit the ground, roll a bit and then just stop.

Just stop……Ahhhh no resistance, nothing to fight against, nothing to come up against…Can you feel it? Just let go. Your mind might be yelling at this point But, But, But what are you talking about?! Let go? What? And then, the what If’s begin. LOL.

The mind can be a dangerous place to spend too much time in. We’ve all done it, but you do have a choice. You can stop your own on-going tennis game, struggle or whatever it might be that you are going up against.

When you go up against something you are adding resistance which keeps ‘it’ going on. Whatever ‘it’ might be. Drama, an argument, a tennis game. You can put down your racket and let go. Do this for yourself and I promise you will feel better. It can be a bit difficult at first, but it does get easier and the lack of resistance means less stress and a road that leads to letting go……..Breath…….Be well.

The fragility of life

A few days ago my husband Mike heard about the death of a very old friend of his. We live in New Mexico, while his friend was still living in Spokane Washington where they had both grown up. They had even worked together for many years in local television. Mike found out that his old pal Vaughan had passed from a mutual old friend of theirs and his kids had posted the passing of their father on his Facebook page.  It's been a sad time for him, but the strangest thing is the fact that one minute your living life and the next you are simply gone.

A few years before that, life dealt another swift blow to two other of Mike's good buddies. Their names were Wally and Mike. I had met them years before when I lived in Spokane, they owned and operated a very successful garage where they specialized in working on foreign cars. I was always impressed with their shop. It was so clean you could eat off the floor and the sound system was first class and loud.

Mike died a few years ago quickly from Cancer. He had told my husband he sort of knew something was wrong but just didn't go to the doctor. A few years after that while undergoing a very long and complex surgery, Wally was permanently brain damaged after they kept him under anesthesia for too long. Sadly, Wally has deteriorated in the last year and is now in a home with the state of mind of a 7 year old. His long time love could no longer care for him at home, it just became too much.  

Life is so strange in so many ways. While I work as a Psychic and Afterlife Communicator, I am also human living in the physical body. I've always been fascinated by life after death, Spirit Guides and the spiritual side of this life. But at the same time, I still find it hard to wrap my mind around life itself. Here we are going along doing our best and ( in some cases) then we're gone, dead - just like that.

Many times while listening to traffic reports when I have lived in large cities like Houston, I wonder if that person who just died in that 3 car pile up, had any idea that he or she would leave home that morning and never return? This life, in many ways is such an odd concept, but, it seems that over time we just learn to live with the terms of this life and perhaps get used to it in some ways.

That is until something changes, like the death of a friend or loved one. This is not a sermon on appreciating what you have and how great life is, but, it is good to be grateful. There are always those who are having a tougher time of it than us.

The older I get, the faster time passes - or is that simply my perception of time passing? What a strange thing it is to get older and yet feel the same on the inside! To want to give advice to someone 20 years younger than myself and then stop and think how I behaved when I was their age.....better to keep my opinion's to myself for there by the grace of God........

Overall, this life deal is a pretty good one. Get the most out of it that you can. Time is so fleeting and this life so fragile, it's good to keep that in mind.

Sped up or fed up?

Perhaps you've noticed like I have over the years how much things have changed when it comes to the holidays, but more so the merchandising of the holidays. I could wonder why this is, but of course, it's all about money, consumerism and getting us to buy, buy, buy. Don't get me wrong, I am an avid shopper - to a point.

The other day I went to Lowes to look for a new fireplace screen since ours is falling apart. I had been there about a week before for something else. Now keep in mind it was January 18th, I would consider this the middle of Winter for the most part. The entire section of space heaters and fireplace supplies had been moved to the very end of an aisle with the front area full of barbecues and all the extra's they come with.

Shelves in the previous Winter area had been cleared and replaced with inventory lists of items to be stocked there. I found one fireplace screen and that was about it. I was going to ask someone if there were any others to choose from but it was pretty obvious - that was it!

So what is the big rush!!??  It's J-a-n-u-a-r-y! There's snow on the ground in many parts of the country, it's cold outside - cold enough to wear a coat, we have snow on top of the Organ mountains! (ok a dusting, this is New Mexico)

I was thinking back a few days ago and it was not like this when I was growing up - not even close. You can bet your last dollar that the day after Christmas huge displays are up and running now pushing Valentines Day!??

So I ask, "what is the big rush"? Is this who we are now or have become? Or rather is this a commentary on who or what the stores we support have become? I really have no idea. On one hand I think they wouldn't push so much merchandise if we didn't buy it and on the other hand, their thought could be, what do we have to lose?

A few of my friends have said they feel kind of down, sort of blah this time of year....well yeah! We've been in holiday mode since October first! To top it off this year, a radio station began playing ALL Christmas music the last week of October.......really?

Look, I love the holidays just as much as anyone else. I love to bake and decorate but I think this says something about our over the top, non-stop buying. I've noticed it in myself. I really have to stop and think what and why I'm spending my money on.

Look around, one of the fastest growing business's in our country are those mini storage unit places, they can't build them fast enough to keep up with the demand.  Maybe something to keep in mind as we begin this new year. Instead of hanging on to all that stuff, why not donate it or give it to someone who needs a hand?  There's something very freeing about it.

Sometimes you have to go backwards in order to move ahead

It seems that we all go through times when we feel stuck, many times we feel that way because we are stuck!  The new job hasn't shown up, your relationship is stagnant, your house is too small or needs soooo much work it's overwhelming.

Those are the times when it's easy to lose patience and faith too, for that matter. It's frustrating to have done all the work, put in the effort and still the situation just stays the same. I've struggled with this myself and I know how easy it is to feel lost or just want to give up.

During this frustrating time, I wasn't sure what to do or which direction to turn. I knew I had to do something different so I could see different results since all of my hard work was getting me nowhere. After wrestling with this issue for what felt like a really, really long time I still had no answers. So I decided to go backward.

Now I do believe as a general rule that you can't really go back - it just doesn't work. That was then and this is now. People change, places change and grow, hopefully, you change and grow so the old form or location just doesn't fit anymore. Keeping this in mind, I decided to give it a try anyways to see what would happen. This was not a huge risk I was taking, just having a look back, a visit to try it on for size. The worst thing that could happen is that it would be disappointing, not a big deal.  

Part of the problem with the past is that that's what it is, the past, and that is exactly where it belongs, behind you. I am reminded by my Spirit Guides to remain in the present moment. The past is gone, the future has not happened yet and all we have is the now. This seems like an easy mindset to practice and it is depending on the day!  But it's a good one and worth working on. Like anything else, it does get easier with time.

So I had a look back after many years of living a very different kind of life. My visit was a lot of things. It was weird, not as great as I remembered, sort of disappointing, a bit sad and it was no longer a good fit for me. Happily, it was also wonderful, great fun and a memorable adventure.

After giving this some thought, I have come to the conclusion that I had to get this trek into my past out of the way, in order to fully move into the present, no matter what that may look like. I no longer have that nagging 'what if ' feeling and I have to tell you it feels wonderful and very freeing. It feels like I just made room in my brain, my heart, and my life for something new and exciting. I've wiped the slate clean. So come on new stuff, I am now ready:)  

No answers? No problem

Once in a while, our dogs will wake me up in the middle of the night wanting to go outside, which they did last night around 4 am. As I let them out I heard a chorus of barking, on top of their barking. I went outside to have a look and there were two huge Great Pyranease dogs! I've known one or two in the past and most are great big friendly dogs. Thank God these two were happy to see me since it was just them and myself out there in my night shirt wondering where in the world they came from.

Our male dog Hooper is the protector so he was chasing them around or trying to as they sort of looked at him with an expression that said, "what are you doing"?  These dogs weighed about 160 pounds each, at least.

Mike heard all the commotion and came out to find all of us going around in circles and these two huge dogs having a rather good time. We finally got our dogs in the house and put the visitors in our kennel. It was really cold last night but these dogs have really thick heavy coats, so we gave them water and went back to bed.

They did have collars and tags on so we called the owner and she came to pick them up later that morning. She told us where she lived and we figured the two dogs had traveled about 10 miles to our house!

The other really strange thing is, we can't figure out how they got into our yard area. We live on 5 acres and the area around the house is fully and heavily fenced, to keep our dogs in and others out. So how did two 300+ pound dogs get it?

About a month ago, I posted a story on Facebook about a chihuahua that had also wandered onto our property. Turned out he was really sick so we took him to the vet, he had no collar or ID. The vets tried to save the poor little guy but he was just too sick so we had to put him down after a week of meds and hope that he would make it. We're not sure where he came from either.

So what's the point? There are so many times in life and in my work as a psychic/medium that there are no answers and that is the way its supposed to be. My Spirit Guides remind me from time to time that those of us here on Earth have a very narrow view of life, the afterlife and the life lessons we come here to learn. We have a sort of tunnel vision during this life with no recall (most of the time) of our past lives or the karma we are working out.

Most of the time the Guides are more than happy to pass on as much information as they possibly can, through me, during a reading. That is their purpose, to help and assist you. But the exception does happen and sometimes it is simply not in our best interest to know' the why' about everything.

So, the next time your out at 4 am to star gaze or take your dogs out, keep an eye peeled. A 160 pound dog may be in your yard just to say hello, for some reason:)    

Leave your door open for blessings

In my work as a Psychic I get to meet so many wonderful, different types of people. My work is never boring. Over the years and after doing thousands of readings, I have come to recognize certain patterns that come up again and again in all people.  We humans can be an odd bunch, myself included. We seem to be prone to certain behaviors like resistance. My Spirit Guides always remind me that it is our own free will that governs each of our lives. We can actually do anything we like, there is nothing stopping us.

But what has been in the spotlight lately is resistance in general and how having or holding on to resistance can get in our way. As an example, I met with a woman a few weeks ago who like many people was resistant to a few of the predictions the Guides were telling her about. One of them was the possibility of meeting a man who would be a companion, friend and a romantic interest. Right away the energy of resistance came up. When I'm doing readings these feelings come to me in waves and in pictures. I actually feel what the person sitting with me is feeling.

I have no judgment about any one's feelings during a reading. Everyone has the right to feel however they feel, it's an individual experience. If anything, I can relate to these very human feelings and resistance is fear and who can't relate to that?

The point is, that many times if we insist on holding on to resistance we may be blocking something wonderful from coming into our lives. When I share a prediction of something great coming into someones life, my Guides always remind me to tell my clients that in order to 'see' this possible partner or great new job or whatever, when it appears, it is very helpful to drop resistance to it in the first place. Just remain open to something wonderful happening at just the right time.

This may seem like a very simple thing to do but sometimes a prediction of a new job or a new love can bring out fear, old hurt feelings or a case of the what ifs.  But if we hold on to our resistance or fear we run the chance of not 'seeing' that opportunity when it does walk into our life. If our hearts and minds are clouded with fear or resistance we may not even give it a chance.

Having hope and faith can be a difficult thing, we don't want to be let down - I understand. Just keep in mind though, that resistance can act as a wall, a giant boulder blocking something unbelievably, incredibly wonderful. Take a chance, what have you got to lose? You can always take your resistance back if you choose.

Life & Change - You're tougher than you may think

Change, so they say, is the only constant in life. It is true, but like many people, I still don't like it. At least not all of the time or all of the changes that come about all on their own. Change is a funny thing since I believe we are hard-wired to resist it to varying degrees.  I hear it all the time when doing readings. We human beings can be tough, resistant and stubborn and I think those are invaluable qualities to have if you're going to survive all the changes we encounter during our lives.

Now at the ripe old age of 56 I see changes in myself that I didn't' exactly plan for. Their not all bad, there is definitely a good side to maturity. I am better at surrendering to what is out of my control like people, places, and things. This concept is a work in progress. It's very weird to get to this age and begin to see people dying. People from TV, movies, and even newscasters I watched growing up in Los Angeles.

The odd part is that seeing others die, usually makes us think of our own death or our lives sort of winding down. I know that sounds a bit extreme, after all, it's not like I'm 80, but it does pop into my mind from time to time. Years ago a very good friend of mine who was in his early 60's told me all of his friends were dying off! He had been to more funerals than he cared to count in the previous year. I think life is sort of like that. Time does speed up as you age and if it actually doesn't, I can tell you the perception of it speeding up is very real.

You know how your grandfather could tell you about a time when he was nine years old but he can't remember what he had for dinner two nights ago? Yeah, that's what I'm talking about. Oh sure, go ahead and laugh it's okay. I know it's funny but it's also just weird. I wonder at what point did I begin to walk into another room in the house and totally forget what I was looking for? 

Life can be tricky....Here we are going along, living life and all of a sudden poof, we're called out of the game, just like that. But that is life on earth and somewhere along the line, I think we read and signed the contract before choosing to enter these physical bodies. Perhaps this is a reminder to enjoy it all, even the challenging times. Keep in mind that too will change for that is the one constant. 

I am happy to say that overall, life remains very sweet, very rich and ver satisfying. My wish for you is the same.